Fight Back

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Fight Back

Postby travdo » Thu Jun 28, 2012 11:43 pm

Life isn't easy nor is it fair. We live in such a feminist society that kids cant fight back anymore and if they do they're the ones who get kicked out of school or need counseling. I'm only 40 and when I was in grade school the biggest kid was picking on me. My dad taught me how to punch him in the nose and keep punching till he bled. That's what I did. That bully never picked on my again. And when he picked on other kids I protected them. I became the underdog and stood up for the small kids. We will never be able to stop bullies. All we can teach kids to do is fight back. That is life. You either fight back or you'll be losing the fight your whole life.
Enroll your kids in karate or teach them how to box. This is all part of growing up and part of life. Unfortunately nowadays moms wear the pants in the family and society is so politically correct that this problem will continue to increase.
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Re: Fight Back

Postby RainMan2 » Mon Jul 02, 2012 12:40 pm

Why is it unfortunate if the mom wears the pants now?
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Re: Fight Back

Postby 3stacker » Tue Jul 03, 2012 10:54 am

Back when you were a kid punching someone in the nose over and over was the answer but in these times its not like that anymore. You cannot send the message to a kid that violence is okay in anyway. How will we ever evolve if we only teach these archaic ways of dealing with a bully? There has to be a understanding from both parties involved so you can come to an agreement of some sort with no blood shed. Of course its not going to be easy but we will only get better if we try.
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Re: Fight Back

Postby AnimateD » Thu Jul 12, 2012 3:10 pm

Times change now that we have more information and fighting is not the answer to bullies its finding the root of the problem inside of the bully and finding a solution.
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Re: Fight Back

Postby USA75 » Thu Jul 19, 2012 2:58 pm

AnimateD wrote :
> Times change now that we have more information and fighting is not the
> answer to bullies its finding the root of the problem inside of the bully
> and finding a solution.

I agree fully with that. Therapy is the only way we can cure bullying.
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Re: Fight Back

Postby Misos » Thu Aug 02, 2012 3:41 pm

If I had a son and he got in trouble for fighting with someone that was bullying him I would be proud but I would never show it so he didnt think I approved of him fighting but deep down I would know that he was standing up for himself.
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Re: Fight Back

Postby wrinkle » Thu Sep 06, 2012 9:02 am

Misos wrote :
> If I had a son and he got in trouble for fighting with someone that was
> bullying him I would be proud but I would never show it so he didnt think I
> approved of him fighting but deep down I would know that he was standing up
> for himself.

I would be the same way Misos :!:
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Re: Fight Back

Postby Starbright85 » Tue Sep 25, 2012 2:13 pm

Misos wrote :
> If I had a son and he got in trouble for fighting with someone that was
> bullying him I would be proud but I would never show it so he didnt think I
> approved of him fighting but deep down I would know that he was standing up
> for himself.

Me too because you know if anything ever happened to you then they have a fight back attitude so they will be ok. You just dont want to look happy so they dont get the wrong impression and think its ok to fight in school.
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Re: Fight Back

Postby Awareness » Wed Oct 03, 2012 1:25 pm

travdo wrote :
> Life isn't easy nor is it fair. We live in such a feminist society that
> kids cant fight back anymore and if they do they're the ones who get kicked
> out of school or need counseling. I'm only 40 and when I was in grade
> school the biggest kid was picking on me. My dad taught me how to punch him
> in the nose and keep punching till he bled. That's what I did. That bully
> never picked on my again. And when he picked on other kids I protected
> them. I became the underdog and stood up for the small kids. We will never
> be able to stop bullies. All we can teach kids to do is fight back. That is
> life. You either fight back or you'll be losing the fight your whole life.
> Enroll your kids in karate or teach them how to box. This is all part of
> growing up and part of life. Unfortunately nowadays moms wear the pants in
> the family and society is so politically correct that this problem will
> continue to increase.


Why are you so angry that people want to help others?
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Re: Fight Back

Postby masons » Tue Oct 09, 2012 1:44 pm

We do not live in a feminist society pal, not even close. We are so far behind on issues like women's right for one thing and if we were feminist than women would make the same amount as men in the work place. Dont even try to refute with the pathetic there are women in powerful positions because that is insulting enough as if we dont deserve it anyway but across the nation overall women still make less money then men in the national average.
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