sticks and stones....

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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby MurrayST » Wed Jan 02, 2013 1:56 pm

We can never put a guage on how bad words can hurt someone.Truth is everyone takes words differently and some can even take their life from just words.Dont let anyone tell you that verbal abuse isnt real because it happens every day.
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby Philly201 » Tue Jan 08, 2013 4:00 pm

Taking control of your emotions is tough. The way to think about it is: if you let people hurt you with their comments.... you are giving them the control of your emotions, if you choose not to react to their stupid comments - you take the control away from them and thats a POWERFUL weapon against there attack.
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby RingRing » Tue Feb 12, 2013 2:32 pm

Even though people say they are just words you should always tell an adult when someone at school or in your neighborhood is bullying you with their words.
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby MizCeeDub » Sun Feb 17, 2013 8:26 am

Words have ALWAYS been my downfall. I used to be called thunder thighs by a boy I liked. I've always been on the thicker side, as I'm native, Hawaiian and Samoan, and was always taller then EVERYONE. So, being called fatty, thunder thighs, and amazon throughout elementary school was hard. I'd cry everyday, and then go home and binge eat, cry again, and complete the cycle the next day. To this day, after I had my kids, I'm still over weight, and my ex used to call me fat b*tch, nasty fat trash and so on. I have thicker skin and TRY not to let anyone see that their words hurt me. When I succeed, they usually leave me alone. Funny, in high school, I lost all my weight and was a ballet dancer, and ran into the boy I like who tease me. Sue liked what he saw then! Thick still, but with muscle and in all the right places! He got the hand!!! Lol
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby DoraLynn » Sun Feb 24, 2013 8:05 pm

MizCeeDub wrote :
> Words have ALWAYS been my downfall. I used to be called thunder thighs by a
> boy I liked. I've always been on the thicker side, as I'm native, Hawaiian
> and Samoan, and was always taller then EVERYONE. So, being called fatty,
> thunder thighs, and amazon throughout elementary school was hard. I'd cry
> everyday, and then go home and binge eat, cry again, and complete the cycle
> the next day. To this day, after I had my kids, I'm still over weight, and
> my ex used to call me fat b*tch, nasty fat trash and so on. I have thicker
> skin and TRY not to let anyone see that their words hurt me. When I
> succeed, they usually leave me alone. Funny, in high school, I lost all my
> weight and was a ballet dancer, and ran into the boy I like who tease me.
> Sue liked what he saw then! Thick still, but with muscle and in all the
> right places! He got the hand!!! Lol
did it make you feel better to have dissed him after all that? It would have for me! :lol:
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby MizCeeDub » Wed Feb 27, 2013 12:49 pm

No, not really doralynn... it actually made me feel sorry for him
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby SiloDoor » Mon Mar 18, 2013 9:53 am

> MizCeeDub wrote :
He got the hand!!! Lol

HAHA yes!! There is a life victory you will never forget!!
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby MizCeeDub » Wed Mar 20, 2013 1:00 pm

SiloDoor wrote :
> > MizCeeDub wrote :
> He got the hand!!! Lol
>
> HAHA yes!! There is a life victory you will never forget!!

Yes, it was. The one who once made me feel like crap, ended up feeling like crap when he got the hand. Sooooo not interested!! Lol
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby Daretodream » Mon Jul 08, 2013 11:54 am

manual wrote :
> When I was young my parents used to tell me that "sticks and stones
> may break your bones but words can never hurt you". They were right
> that words could never break my bones like stick and stones would but they
> do still hurt. Sometimes the one thing that kids make fun of you for is
> what bothers you too. I remember kids calling me fat boy when I was in
> school and crying to my mom when I came home. She used to tell me that I
> just havent grown out of my baby fat yet. Try telling kids at school that
> you just have baby fat and see if that helps....it does not.I think the
> basic concept they were trying to get through to me is that if you can deal
> with someone calling you names its a lot better than them trying to hurt
> you physically. Learning to act like stuff doesnt bother you is the skill
> you should work on. If you can roll your eyes and walk away after you are
> insulted you will deter any bully from wanting to bother you because they
> dont like your reaction. If you dont care what they say then they wont
> either.

Words hurt more than anything. If I had a penny for every word that is branded in my brain from hurtful words, I would be sitting very pretty on a stash of money right now.
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Re: sticks and stones....

Postby nandorainerPB » Fri Jul 12, 2013 10:19 am

I tell my kids to ignore the bullies and only fight to protect themselves.
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