Turn the other cheek

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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby LoveThyNeighbor » Mon Jan 28, 2013 4:40 pm

Old school method but it still works wonders in the modern day! :D
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby SimpleMan » Tue Feb 19, 2013 2:15 pm

You might teach the bully something in the process
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby DoraLynn » Sun Feb 24, 2013 8:03 pm

turn the other cheek! Best advice everrr.... ;)
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby MizCeeDub » Wed Feb 27, 2013 12:53 pm

This method works on anyone, anywhere, any time....
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby CorpHunt » Mon Mar 25, 2013 1:25 pm

LoveThyNeighbor wrote :
> Old school method but it still works wonders in the modern day! :D

Classics live on forever...
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby pinkiejay » Wed May 01, 2013 9:20 am

I love this! But shall we do when we turn the other cheek and the bully just doesn't get the hint?
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby BlowTheHorn » Tue May 07, 2013 9:08 am

True,but in the moment it's very hard to practice that. I will try though.
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby DoraLynn » Tue May 07, 2013 11:05 am

If the bully doesn't get the hint when you turn the other cheek, you may need to prepare yourself for a cheap shot! Usually though, if you turn the other cheek, its very easy to ignore that bully.
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby EddieGafleski » Mon Jun 10, 2013 10:02 am

I think that statement is true, but (sometimes) the justice system in this country is not up to date on some issues and filled with bureaucratic red tape.
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Re: Turn the other cheek

Postby windytunnel » Mon Jun 10, 2013 7:10 pm

I found this article... Very interesting

Why Turning the Other Cheek Does NOT Work


When I was growing up, I was taught that when it comes to bullies or someone who was treating you poorly, I was supposed to do what it was taught in the Good Book, and that was "turn the other cheek".

Both Mom and Dad were churchgoing folks and like most, they sent me to Sunday School, were I would dutifully try to listen and understand what the teacher was saying about the Good Book, how you were supposed to treat others, the Ten Commandments…the whole deal.

Once I started being bullied – first in elementary and middle school, then finally in high school, I learned something that they did NOT teach me in Sunday School or at home…

"Turning the Other Cheek" hurt. It made me feel like a wimp; a victim. And, it did NOT work.

I discovered early on that in almost all cases, Turning the Other Cheek did nothing more than encourage a bully.

I didn't understand until much later, when as an adult, I saw on interview being done where the FBI was questioning criminals as to why and how they select their victims.

The #1 way that criminals select their victims is what victim/target looks the LEAST likely to fight back? Who looks scared or unsure of themselves? Who looks like they would try to run away or just wilt under pressure?

Those were the top criteria. If you take a look at that, then you look at the philosophy of "turning the other cheek", you can see why that philosophy may actually invite being picked on – or worse.


Another way to look at it is this: when faced with a snarling, angry dog, or a bear, or anything else that is can be considered a predator, what is the first thing that you are taught?

DON'T RUN.

Why? Because when you run, you trigger the natural response in the animal – which is to chase.

But if you stand your ground, or in some cases, wave your arms, shout, make yourself look bigger, etc…many times the animal, thinking you are not afraid, larger or the more deadly predator – leaves you alone.

Bullies, Energy Suckers, Predators and more are no different.

When it comes to being bullied, pushed around, taken advantage of or giving your power away – don't turn the other cheek or run.

Take back your power.

To your best,

Sensei Harrison Huff

P.S. – To find out more about how you can Take Back Your Power, go to http://www.bullyproofkids.com.

http://bullyproofkids.com/why-turning-the-other-cheek-does-not-work
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