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Postby DoraLynn » Tue May 07, 2013 10:47 am

Not sure what to think or do. My nephew is being bullied. His sister over heard his conversation with a friend and came and told her mom, who was very upset and wanted to find this kid and go postal. She called her son down, asked what was going on, and my nephew said that it happened a month ago and he reported it to the dean already. He said nothing has happened since. After she had dismissed him, after a hour long speech about telling her all incidences, don't be afraid to talk, and always feel comfortable talking to her, me, the school, whoever. My niece then said that he was lying, that it happened that day. I started to agree, because he was a half hour late coming home from school, which is why I was there in the first place. My sister needed me to watch the younger kids to go look for my nephew. My sister seems to think that she will let him handle this incident on his own, and that she will allow him to work it out. I told her about this site and all the different things that can happen to kids who are bullied. She is scared now. Any advice I can give her? He seems to be okay. His grades have dropped, but that would be in part that he was just awarded an xbox 360 for straight A's last semester. Now he is at two D's, two C's and two A's. He has currently been on xbox restriction until the end of the year, and will only get it back if the grades come back up to at least B's. I think the incident happened when my niece said so, but I am baffled why he would continue to lie and say it happened a month ago. Should I have my sister go up to the school and investigate? Should we let it be until another incident happens? I need so me advice.
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Re: Need advice

Postby BullsandHorns » Fri May 10, 2013 9:58 am

Maybe taking self defense courses will give him the confidence he needs to not get bullied, or defend himself if he has to.
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Re: Need advice

Postby MizCeeDub » Fri May 10, 2013 6:45 pm

That;s what I would suggest too, self defense class. I am a true believer in NOT using violence to ward off bullying, but if it comes down to needing it when there is nothing else, then Im all for it. Ive looked into several classes for my 7 year old son as well. He was bullied last year by a school mate. I really hope you nephew is being honest with you. If the girl is telling you it happened that day, and he says it was earlier, I would go ahead and ask the dean, just to be on the cautious side. Good luck to yo guys!
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Re: Need advice

Postby Kdubias » Mon May 20, 2013 11:07 am

I would phone the dean and ask him what steps have been taken to make sure this doesnt happen again. If he claims that these things work themselves out on their own tell him you will be going to your local media outlet to expose him.
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Re: Need advice

Postby pinkiejay » Wed May 22, 2013 8:41 am

I agree. I would follow up with the dean and his counselor. Have a good talk with your nephew and tell him this is serious and then keep on the school and go above the school if nothing was ever done. Stay on them. Your nephew may not be telling you the whole story.
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Re: Need advice

Postby SCgame » Tue May 28, 2013 1:35 pm

There is no better present a boy can receive than being enrolled in some type of fighting class to get some confidence.
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Re: Need advice

Postby HealthyHealing » Mon Jun 03, 2013 1:43 pm

Kdubias wrote :
> I would phone the dean and ask him what steps have been taken to make sure
> this doesnt happen again. If he claims that these things work themselves
> out on their own tell him you will be going to your local media outlet to
> expose him.

And before you begin the conversation tell them you are recodring the phone call for your records
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Re: Need advice

Postby pinkiejay » Mon Jun 03, 2013 8:25 pm

HealthyHealing wrote :
> Kdubias wrote :
> > I would phone the dean and ask him what steps have been taken to make sure
> > this doesnt happen again. If he claims that these things work themselves
> > out on their own tell him you will be going to your local media outlet to
> > expose him.
>
> And before you begin the conversation tell them you are recodring the phone call for
> your records
Thats another good idea as well. If there is a way, make sure you actually record it too!
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Re: Need advice

Postby Rowdy » Tue Jun 04, 2013 9:51 am

DoraLynn

Is your nephew's sister older or younger? If she is the one who heard him talking do you think she might be able to be your tiny representative and get all the info you need?
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Re: Need advice

Postby MellowMelon » Thu Jun 06, 2013 3:09 pm

I wouldnt wait for the next incident I would go now before it gets any worse and your nephew gets anymore depressed
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