What changed you?

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Re: What changed you?

Postby LaLaLa » Mon Dec 31, 2012 12:15 pm

I bullied girls in my 4th grade class so bad that they were afraid of me.I am a mother now so I am very careful what I say to my kids about bullying because I dont want to reveal that I was a bully. I know that if my kids were bullied I would cry knowing exactly how means kids can be. I changed from being a bully when I saw one girl crying so bad because she had to be my partner in art class and she told the teacher she didnt want to be near me because I scared her.That is when I changed because I didnt want to be so mean anymore and I told her I was sorry for being so mean.I hope that my daughters feel the same way about bullying like I do.~Thanks
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Re: What changed you?

Postby Mikie » Mon Jan 07, 2013 2:13 pm

As for bullying by verbal abuse - when someone encountered someone quicker and smarter than myself... ithen realized how it felt to be belittled.
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Re: What changed you?

Postby MizCeeDub » Sun Feb 17, 2013 8:08 am

GussMAN wrote :
> I will be the first bully to speak up. I was a bully in elementary school
> all the way through my jr. year in high school. I was a jock and I was
> very popular, it seemed like bullying just came with the territory.
>
> I used to tease this one kid in elementary that everyone else picked on as
> well. I would call him four eyes and zit face and I would join in and
> laugh with everyone if someone else was picking on him. I look back and
> feel so bad.
>
> When I was in 9th and 10th grade I started to bully this kid for being gay.
> He was flamboyant and only hung out with girls and I guess was an easy
> target for everyone. It made me uncomfortable when he was around. Deep
> down I was jealous of him because I was gay too. But there was no way in
> this world that I would come out of the closet; I was an athlete and what
> would my parents say. So, I covered it up by bullying him for two years.
> The day things changed for me was when I saw this kid crying after one of
> my friends pushed him and called him a fairy and then another friend of
> mine pushed him and he flew to the ground and didn't even try to get up.
> Right then I felt like this kid had had enough and our actions were not ok.
> I went over and helped him up (he was terrified when I walked over) and I
> told everyone to back off. I ended up going to his house a few days later
> and apologized for everything I had done and asked for his forgiveness. He
> ended up being one of my best friends and the first person I came out of
> the closet to. It took me years to come out to everyone else, but if it
> wasn't for this kid, I don't know if I would have had the strength.

Wow... thank you for sharing this... this is amazing. Are you and this guy still friends today? Amazing share! I smiled. It warms my heart to hear things like this.
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Re: What changed you?

Postby ReliableRon » Fri Feb 22, 2013 10:33 am

The one thing I can remember is... The look in this kids eyes as he was being punched in the face and stomach - he was looking at me even though I wasn't the bully & that effected me!
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Re: What changed you?

Postby MizCeeDub » Sat Feb 23, 2013 1:16 pm

ReliableRon wrote :
> The one thing I can remember is... The look in this kids eyes as he was
> being punched in the face and stomach - he was looking at me even though I
> wasn't the bully & that effected me!
Were you a bully at one time? Or a bystander?
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Re: What changed you?

Postby FriendlySteven » Wed Feb 27, 2013 11:06 am

Getting beat up badly changed me.
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Re: What changed you?

Postby MizCeeDub » Wed Feb 27, 2013 12:48 pm

FriendlySteven wrote :
> Getting beat up badly changed me.
You were a bully and got beat up? By someone you bullied? Or just some other bully. That would change me too, if I ere a bully!! :)
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Re: What changed you?

Postby MikeNoBullies » Thu Feb 28, 2013 10:43 am

I suppose when my mum saw me bash another mate and I felt badly! Thats probably the time i realized it were bad!
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Re: What changed you?

Postby MizCeeDub » Tue Mar 05, 2013 1:14 pm

MikeNoBullies wrote :
> I suppose when my mum saw me bash another mate and I felt badly! Thats
> probably the time i realized it were bad!

Thats got to be horrible. Having my mom disappointed in me is always bad... What was her reaction, if you dont mind me asking?
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Re: What changed you?

Postby Bernice45Bee » Fri Mar 08, 2013 10:43 am

I got my teeth knocked out by a bully and I realized I shouldn't bully anyone after.
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