Listen carefully

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Listen carefully

Postby Basics » Mon Oct 01, 2012 1:38 pm

If you are always asking your children how their days went in school you should learn to ask the right questions and listen very carefully. Sometimes a child will avoid a topic about their day to avoid explaining what had occured out of shame or fear. Asking questions like anything new happen today or how good has your school been for you are good ways of asking. Its important that as parents you bring things out of your kids when you know they dont want to talk about them. Basically you are trying to get them to feel comfortable coming to you with anything and if you sense that they are being bullied at the early stages you can confont the problem before it becomes dangerous or upsetting.
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby walkabout » Tue Oct 02, 2012 1:28 pm

If you child has difficulty explaing their bad feelings and mishaps to you then you should get their aunt, uncle, or older sibling to be your personal info retriever. Sometimes kids lock up their feelings and dont ask for help for various reasons but if they will not disclose their feelings to you another family member might qualify as a safe zone for them to express themselves freely.
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby Shrek » Wed Oct 03, 2012 1:56 pm

If you tell your child that you have bad times at work and people hurt your feelings even as an adult you will be more relatable and thus giving you a better shot at getting them to open up to you.
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby Progression » Tue Oct 09, 2012 2:55 pm

I have read a few books on child psychology and once you can understand how a child thinks in the stages of their life you can have a better chance at unlocking their secrets they are keeping.
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby Embark » Mon Oct 15, 2012 1:31 pm

A lot of times its what they dont say that you need to be attentive of
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby NorthStar » Mon Oct 22, 2012 2:38 pm

Progression wrote :
> I have read a few books on child psychology and once you can understand how
> a child thinks in the stages of their life you can have a better chance at
> unlocking their secrets they are keeping.

Many times children will tell you a story about a friend and when you listen you can come to the conclusion that they are speaking about themself but trying to hide it just to get your advice. When you give your answer pretend you are giving them advice for their friend but personalize it for them since that is what they will use.
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby pardoned » Tue Dec 04, 2012 12:46 pm

Embark wrote :
> A lot of times its what they dont say that you need to be attentive of

Dont forget to pry them open like a can of sardines, we are parents now we are supposed to be their buddy thats just a bonus.
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby DeandraB » Mon Jan 21, 2013 2:20 pm

In combination with their body language you will pick up certain cues in when they are telling you a story and that is when you know to go back and touch base to get more details
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby SUPAHSTAR » Mon Feb 25, 2013 3:41 pm

When they say their day was anything but good you should ask more questions. When they say their day was ok or alright then you just have to keep talking until they tell you about it.
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Re: Listen carefully

Postby Corked » Tue Feb 26, 2013 2:57 pm

pardoned wrote :
> Embark wrote :
> > A lot of times its what they dont say that you need to be attentive of
>
> Dont forget to pry them open like a can of sardines, we are parents now we are
> supposed to be their buddy thats just a bonus.

haha good parents are somtimes annoying parents but its our job
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