Talk to another family member about it

Is your dad telling you to stop crying and toughen up? How do you get him to listen?

Re: Talk to another family member about it

Postby spurs22 » Tue Jan 22, 2013 4:10 pm

You can always call a family meeting so that everyone gets the chance to talk and be heard.My family used to work the biggest problems out by having a family meeting and talking things out.
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Re: Talk to another family member about it

Postby MizCeeDub » Sun Feb 17, 2013 7:40 am

sweetbritney wrote :
> If your dad is coming down hard on you, try going to another family member
> (mother, grandparent, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, etc). Maybe they can
> talk to your dad for you. Don't be ashamed or feel like a
> "wuss", just remember that your dad may have been raised that way
> and may not know how to approach the situation appropriately.
This is true. My mom was raised that way and treated me that way. I went to my older sister who acted as my protector until she went to college. My mom slipped into a bad depression when I was 10 and I had to take care of her. Hard to show love to someone who has berated me for so long. But, I wanted her to love me. So, I would go to school, come home and clean, cook her dinner and sit in her bed while she slept. For months, she never left her bed... for years I looked after her. Role reversal, but I wasn't mean to her like she was to me. Aon as she got better, went back to the same thing. I told my granny, her mom, and she Wold get after her. But her mom, my granny, did the same thing to her. Its a cycle. Tell anyone who will help, but make sure its not the enabler of the behavior.
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Re: Talk to another family member about it

Postby watts » Thu Feb 21, 2013 3:09 pm

Thats too young to have to grow up like that and take care of your mother. Do you and your mother have a relationship now? What about your sister that protected you?
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Re: Talk to another family member about it

Postby MizCeeDub » Mon Mar 11, 2013 6:48 pm

watts wrote :
> Thats too young to have to grow up like that and take care of your mother.
> Do you and your mother have a relationship now? What about your sister that
> protected you?
Me and my mom are trying. Just recently, she admitted that out of her 3girls, me being the youngest, I had it worse, and if anyone should hate her, it should be me. When she told me that, I wanted to scream "its about damn time"! But, instead, we are building. I don't fully trust her, nor do I feel that the abuse is over, but she feels remorseful. My sister, she lives in another state an we are closer than we were after she left for college. I hardly saw her for years! Thank you for asking... ;)
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Re: Talk to another family member about it

Postby CorpHunt » Mon Mar 25, 2013 1:27 pm

I can always rely on my brother to help me when I need something to talk about. He is 5 years older so every time when we was growing up he would be my voice when I lost it and still today he keeps me grounded about family issues with my and my dad. Having problems with your family is normal but not forgiving them is not.
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Re: Talk to another family member about it

Postby DoraLynn » Sun Apr 28, 2013 4:31 pm

Older siblings always have your back. Even if you guys don't get along. Something about them want in to defend you.
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Re: Talk to another family member about it

Postby PowerJ » Mon Aug 12, 2013 2:12 pm

DoraLynn wrote :
> Older siblings always have your back. Even if you guys don't get along.
> Something about them want in to defend you.

True my brother and I fought all the time but if someone did something to either of us then you would have a problem with both of us
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Re: Talk to another family member about it

Postby Northside » Tue Feb 04, 2014 11:16 am

spurs22 wrote :
> You can always call a family meeting so that everyone gets the chance to
> talk and be heard.My family used to work the biggest problems out by having
> a family meeting and talking things out.

We had a chalkboard growing up that you would write things down you wanted to talk about and when it filled up we sat down and talked about it.
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