Euna Moon
Bullying Survivor
Female | Sault Sainte Marie, MI   United States
Life Long Struggle
Bullying Type: Physical / Emotional
Twitter @EunaMoon

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All my life I have been subject to emotional bullying in one form or another. I am of mixed ethnicity and was hardly accepted by either side of nationalities. Growing up I was bullied because I couldn't speak the mother tongue, because I was too thin or too fat, and because I was of color. Someone even asked me once, “Why aren't you tall and thin like your mother?” That simple line became one of my biggest personal downfalls for years. My mother would bully me into feeling guilty for things I did and said, resulting in my being overly conscious in how people perceived me and constantly stressing about keeping people happy with me. My family began to bully me when I began studying foreign languages, making friends and living in the Asian Culture. Suddenly, I was a “wanna be”, “culturally confused”, and constantly turning or playing “Turning Japanese” became an old joke fast. I began to study belly dance at a local dance studio. I became close to the owner (my teacher) and her husband until one day my teacher felt she had no more to teach me and that I was a threat to her relationship with her husband. After that I was bullied by my teacher for my choreography and my character until I resigned from the studio as a teacher and student. I was bullied by bosses and co-workers because I was pretty, smart, and hard working. I would excel at my work and receive recognition and awards, so “she must be sleeping with the boss” were the general gossip story. I was once sexually harassed by a supervisor and almost raped by him. I reported him for it to the managers and police, but my co-workers were not happy with my actions and bullied me for getting him in trouble. That’s right; I was bullied for doing the right thing! I have even been bullied by boyfriends in past relationships, both physically and emotionally, for the sake of keeping me with them in their personal lives and preventing my ending the relationship…it didn't work in the end.
All my life, I have been talked down to, abused, mistreated, and misunderstood. I have suffered mentally and physically, and have had severe depression on more than one occasion. I have tried to change myself to please others. I tried dressing with extreme modesty, making sure my assets were not accentuated, wearing basic unflattering makeup and having my hair pulled into a severely tight bun to hide my tresses. I became introverted, shut down publicly, and lived alone in my private little world with two cats because cats understand everything…yeah right! So what got me through it all?
Music would be my first answer. Music has always been there for me to console me through my tears, to cheer me up and make me happy, to inspire me to dance and to move forward with life. Through music came dance and today both are my living-breathing life. It feeds my soul, it makes me comfortable with who I am, it is my self-expression, my passion, my future and my past. I wouldn't be the person I am today without either.
The next thing to get me through it all was a network of close friends. Not just any friend, because one thing I learned the hard way is that all “friends” are not real or true. Finding real friends that are there for you no matter what to pick you up when you are down, listen to your woes, let you spill tears and snot on their shoulder, give you hugs, offer words of comfort and hope, and then treat you to food and fun times to cheer you up…those are the best friends in the world. Friends that welcomed you into their private lives, accepted you into their culture – teaching you how to cook, dress to impress, speak their language, dance their dance, how to think for yourself and forget what the world thinks because you are you and nobody has the right to take that beautiful gift of happiness away. Those are some of the truest friends in the world.
Throughout life and all the many negative experiences with bullying, teasing, and abuse, I took away many valuable experiences and life lessons. I learned that I am who I am. I am smart, pretty, unique and talented. I am hard-working, well-loved, and quick to love others. I learned that while I have all these qualities about me, I can be seen as a threat to people who are not as confident and have personal issues. I learned that this is not my fault and it is not right of them to try to ruin my happiness for their personal gain. I learned that I must be true to myself and stick to my guns and values, forgetting what everyone else may think because they are not true friends and it is not their right to judge me. So long as my friends believe in me and support me, the rest of the world can go on believing what they want. That is their choice, not mine. I also learned that harsh words, stalking, and threats are not the way to win my affection and loyalty in relationships because I am stronger than that and will not be caged or controlled.
Each moment that I have experienced has been a hard one and challenged me on various levels. Each story has critical detail in how I became who I am. In the end though, I came out stronger in myself with the help of a close family of friends, music, and dance, and today, I share my experiences and lessons with my daughters. I am teaching them to live for themselves and not to let the world get in their way of being who they are. I hope my experiences, messages, and lessons can be of benefit to others as well as myself.



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Name: Euna Moon
Age: 36
Twitter: Twitter @EunaMoon
Country: United States
Location: Sault Sainte Marie, MI
Gender: Female
Zodiac Sign: Aquarius
Maiden Name: N/A
Relationship Status: Married
Profession: Entertainment
Education level: Some college
University: N/A
Ethnicity: Bi-racial or Mixed
Hair Color: Brown
Eye Color: Hazel
Height: 5 ft 2 in
Weight: N/A
Tattoos: No

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