Cyberbullied Students
Someone Being Bullied
Male | Las Cruces, NM   United States
Students face issue of cyberbullying
Bullying Type: Emotional
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9/20/13 12:29 AM
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The victim was 16 and graduated early from Mayfield High School. She moved to Virginia to go to college and met someone older and fell in love. She did not know that relationship would turn horrific.
"He asked me to marry him," said the student, who wishes to remain anonymous. "But we had a bad falling out. He was on all kinds of drugs (and) he was sleeping with my best friend. I moved back home."
In this technologically advanced society, though, the many miles across the country did not protect the teenager or give her a buffer zone. For nearly a decade now, she has been harassed, stalked, embarrassed and even threatened online by her ex and also by strangers who've read about her.
For a while the victim tried to keep her situation quiet, but she said her ex put her name and photo on multiple sex sites and the damage spread. She began to be contacted by other men. Her ex even put up the victim's address in Las Cruces and posed as her online. She would be approached and propositioned by men locally. She moved back out of state to try and give college another chance in Denver, where she is currently a student.
"It was a couple of years before she told me," said the student's mother. "She doesn't even like to look online."
Cyberbullying happens when people use the Internet and social media
-- like Facebook and Twitter and message boards -- and email and texts and other electronic avenues to harass and threaten others. While it can happen to people of any age group, most sources report that cyberbullying starts, and is most common among, adolescents. That is also a time of life when victims can be most emotionally vulnerable.
"We have found that middle school victims of cyberbullying score higher on a suicidal ideation scale," the Cyberbullying Research Center reports. "We have heard many tragic stories of adolescents who commit suicide after enduring bullying and/or cyberbullying."
The American Academy of Pediatrics report that one in six high school students report they have suffered cyberbullying.
Caroline Knorr, Parenting Editor of Common Sense Media, said that bullying can start whenever a child gets a cell phone or has access to the Internet.
"I don't know if it has more of an impact at any age. I think it impacts kids differently at different ages, but the important thing is stressing how to use online communications respectfully, responsibly, and within the limits you set," she reports is her advice to parents on
At school
New Mexico law requires the Public Education Department to establish policies, and every local school district and state chartered school to implement bullying prevention programs.
The Las Cruces Public Schools policy requires that all licensed school employees complete training on how to recognize victims of bullying, including cyberbullying. In addition, employees must report any instance of potential bullying they discover. Any such report must be investigated.
Anyone guilty of such action faces discipline, which could be as harsh as suspension or expulsion for students, and result in reprimand, suspension or even termination for adults.
"As you can imagine, social media has created a whole new set of problems for public schools with regard to bullying," said Jo Galvan, LCPS director of communications. "Administrators are often times having to review student Facebook pages, Tweets, YouTube videos, and we have a separate policy to deal with inappropriate use of cell phones during school hours."
She said the Board of Education recently updated its policy regarding bullying that defines cyberbullying as electronic communication that:
* Targets a specific student

* Is published with the intention that the communication be seen by or disclosed to the targeted students
* Is in fact seen by or disclosed to the targeted students
* Creates or is certain to create a hostile environment on the school campus
"There is a new online reporting program that was just implemented last week for middle and high school students," Glvan said. "With financial support from the local Crime Stoppers, LCPS is now using Tip Soft, a software program which allows students to text message an incident of crime, bullying or cyberbullying. They text a message to "CRIMES" and by including their school's specific code number, the anonymous tip goes to school personnel to investigate and to police."
She said there are also efforts under way to better inform parents about the issue.
The Website, created by the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, offers tips for parents to address the cyberbullying issue. It recommends that parents:
* Talk with their kids about cyberbullying
* Know the sites their kids visit and their online activities
* Tell their kids that, as a responsible parent, they may review their online communications
* Have a sense of what they do online and in texts.
* Ask for their passwords, but tell them they'll only be used in case of emergency.
* Ask to "friend" or "follow" their kids on social media sites
* Encourage the kids to tell you immediately if they, or someone they know, is being cyberbullied.
As for the cyberbully victim who is now a college student in Colorado, she said she has contacted the FBI multiple times, as well as police departments and even inquired if there was a civil avenue should could take in court.
"I was on my knees begging and sobbing and crying in front of the FBI and they said, 'Sorry,' they could not do anything for me," she said.
She said that she plans to get on with her life and not let the issue define her.
"I'm not going to let this win," she said. "I'm going to pursue my dreams. I'm going to be the person I want to be. I'm not going to let this win. I'm not going to kill myself. I'm not going to hide away forever."
Brook Stockberger may be reached at 575-541-5457

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Posted By: IwantNOT2baBully | 9/20/13 11:22 AM
Educating the kids and monitoring them seems to be a good start for this terrible and complex problem we all face.
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