Girls bullying
Someone Being Bullied
Female | New Zealand   New Zealand
Understanding bullying by girls
Bullying Type: Emotional
Posted By: RawSide
7/11/13 11:04 AM
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Both girls and boys are capable of overt (physical and verbal) and covert (social and relational) bullying. But due to various factors, covert bullying occurs more commonly among girls.

The old stereotype that describes girls as shallow, catty and incapable of getting on with each other dishonours the ability of adolescent girls to learn, grow and adapt in socially challenging environments. In fact the stereotypes assigned to girls increase the likelihood that covert bullying will be used.

A girl wanting to protect her reputation as a “nice girl” may be inhibited in her ability to express feelings or resolve conflict openly. Instead she may launch secret attacks on the other, inflicting emotional pain, and damage to the other’s reputation, friendships or social status.

Girls rely on relationships with others to feel okay. The weapons used against them by other girls include spreading rumours, isolation from the group, silent treatment, and cyber-bullying. Covert bullying is more deadly in that it can be anonymous, so the victim has no way of knowing where the damage is coming from, or why it is happening. The anonymity also makes the bullying less visible to supervising parents and teachers.

The motive for the bullying may be for entertainment, to enhance the status of the bullying girl, to punish the victim for some perceived slight, or violation of the group’s social code. A perpetrator who holds a lot of social power may influence others to join with her. The other girls may do this out of fear that they will be bullied themselves.

Bullying in schools has been a growing concern in the past couple of decades. Research has shown that where bullying is not effectively addressed there is a marked detrimental effect on the social and academic outcomes for students.

Field, Colbert, Crothers and Hughes, in their 2009 book Understanding Girl Bullying, review several programmes that have been used successfully in the United States and Canada. They state: “Setting up supportive home and school environments, that promote healthy emotional, social and cognitive adjustment, is the best way to decrease distress and psychopathology in children and adolescents.”

As parents, we can listen to our kids’ concerns, which will teach them to speak out assertively. We can model non-bullying relationships in the home, and practise open problem-solving and conflict resolution. We can talk to our kids about our experiences so that they learn from us. Most of all, we let our kids know that they matter, that they are okay as they are, and they do not have to put up with bullying.

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Posted By: BowWowBoy | 7/11/13 12:07 PM
I saw the movie mean girls and girls can be just as bad if not worse than boys. The parents need to get more involved in the child's life to help stop this.
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