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As much as it might hurt your feelings you cannot blame the bully for their actions. You can only pray for them that they will be forgiven and turn the other cheek. You should not let them use force against you but do it in a non violent fasion so you can keep civility. This is often scoffed by teh parents of the victim because they seek justice. Remember that you are not a judge and you have no place seeking your justice.
You can teach your kids to be nonviolent and love their god but when their classmates are harming them on a regular basis you will have to take a different approach. There are teachers and faculty who believe in god and if you can get them to listen to your voice they will help your son or daughter with their problems so they can be more christian in your teachings.
Every kid should be taught that fighting is not right but that doesnt mean you can let them not have any training in self defense. Just as a tool for life your son or daughter should know how to properly defend themselves. If you can teach your kid to never have a fight and always be the one to walk away that is such good parenting just dont neglect the fact that there are some people who will try to harm them in their life and they have the right to know what to do in those seldom situations.
This is what the better people do. What does it matter if someone that you already dont get along with says anything about you? Would you expect anything less? That should be something that you understand would come from people that are just messed up. Walking away from someone who is saying mean things to you could make them look worse. You show them by walking away that it really doesnt matter what they say so they might as well just be quiet.
You ARE a better person if you can walk away. You ARE stronger if you can just ignore them. Staying away from a fight is always the right choice to make so dont let anyone force you to fight. Nobody has to fight.
You will avoid many conflicts if you can remember that the better person will always turn the other cheek. You will be taunted while you are leaving but try to remember that it is only a test and if you can ignore them then their words mean nothing
Most people wont sucker punch you when you turn and walk away they will just try to say the most hateful things to you to make you come back and fight them but you have to be strong and know that turning the other cheek makes you the better person.