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Sometimes the only way to deal with something is to just get a good nights rest and go about it again tomorrow with a full head of steam. Thinking that the next day will be worse than the next will only bring the negative to you so you have to just put the past behind you and move ahead. If you deal with a bully the day before that doesnt mean it will happen tomorrow. Maybe the next time wont be so different because you are stronger than the last time you met and you wont let them pick on you next time. Just live each day moment by moment and dont wait for the bad to come or that is all you will ever think about and it consumes you.
You're right bruisedego sometimes when you sleep off whatever is bothering you once you wake up you dont feel the same way about it. You feel like it is in the past and you can move ahead without dealing with it again.The sleep gives your mind time to rest so you can have a more clear outlook on how to handle your problem.
Good advice but make sure that you dont ignore your problems and let them turn into major issues. People make a good point that just walking away and taking some time to figure things out usually helps a lot because you have had time to think and make the best choice. It would be the wrong thing to go sleep it off then not deal with it at all because then you have unresolved problems and you can ask any adult that you do not want those problems swirling around in your head because you havent addressed them properly. Its always smart to give yourself the appropriate amount of time to make a decision but make sure you come to a conclusion for your own sake.
Time heals a lot. ultimate is making a lot of sense here because when you make a decision that is important in your life you should wait until your emotions subside and you can have a rational clear head. Sleeping the day off is not running away from your problems but its actually smart because once you have thought everything through you can be confident you have made the best choice you were able to make at the time so you have no regrets if something goes wrong.
Some of my worst days were all better the next morning. I think when you become an adult and start to understand more about who you are as a person and how life works. You find that you can often make a mountain out of a mole hill and just going to sleep it off and handle it in the following day will allow you to think clearly and make a decision with less emotions involved.
ultimate wrote : > Good advice but make sure that you dont ignore your problems and let them > turn into major issues.
Very true. If you run away and sleep your problems off every time you will lose the skills that you need to develop to deal with these problems in a better way. This method should only be used in certain situations.
Most of the time when you are young it seems like time is moving very slowly but your problems will be over soon. So soon that I bet if you did call it an early night you will feel much better about your problem in the morning. Its like hitting a refresh button and knowing that when the sun comes up you can put the past behind you and begin new again.
PinkBow wrote : > Most of the time when you are young it seems like time is moving very > slowly but your problems will be over soon. So soon that I bet if you did > call it an early night you will feel much better about your problem in the > morning. Its like hitting a refresh button and knowing that when the sun > comes up you can put the past behind you and begin new again.
Yep and kids have short term memory so if you move on then so will they
This is a saying basically letting you know that your problems most likely will not even follow you into the next day. Sometimes we encounter a bully and we fear that they will never stop. A lot of times those bullies that picked on you werent targeting you just you happened to be in front of them in their path of hatred. If you take the experience and let it ruin your home life then you are not letting it go. Even if it was wrong or mean you have to learn to put it in the past the best that you can and move forward. I dont mean that your problems arent real I just think that if you start the next day with hope and a good outlook then you will forget about that bully and he will forget about you.