Jamie Brouhard
Bullying Survivor
Female | Phoenix, AZ   United States
The defamation made me stronger
Bullying Type: Physical / Emotional
Posted By: JamieBroUser Verified
1/28/14 11:44 PM
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I am a grown woman, can't believe I am here...I am not a teen...cyber bullying, harassment and defamation can happen to anyone...just never thought I would be here.

How many times can I say this inside my head.

I am a very big hearted person, I have forgiven my cyber bully. I find forgiving her makes me feel better.

I am in the automotive industry. I work with several men. To remain a classy woman is very important in my field.
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A very insecure woman has gone on a rampage to defame me maliciously:

August 23, 2013 a day that changed my life...I was visiting my family in another state and I receive a phone call from a co worker. He said "everyone got a picture from her last night...YES all 17 ....The picture was of a woman in a porno. You could barley see her face...but the face you could see looked like me. The picture was VERY graphic. I was numb...I didn’t know what this picture looked like only hearing over the phone a description of it.

Later that day I get an email from a previous customer in my Facebook inbox. The email said "some guy out there hates you" "you are posted on a liars and cheaters website. Nice picture though! “MORTIFIED, WHAT HAS SHE DONE!!!

I was shaking; I couldn't type my name fast enough in the search engine of my iPhone.
I never will forget this moment. In the back seat of my dad's truck with my sister and my son on his birthday, a time with my family I should have enjoyed. I was trying to stay calm as he sat next to me. I saw the picture of my face...a familiar picture...My Facebook profile picture. Relief...No naughty picture...But wait…….

Later that day Googling my name brings up several websites...Cheaters, **, ihatecheaters, datingscams101, liarsandcheaters.com, the dirty.com. and so on and so on. A total of 16 websites...A blog defamating me...calling me a wh*re, a sl*t. Attaching all my personal information. She posted many of my modeling photos, along with cropped pictures of the porn star Jessica M. who looks like me. All posts include my REAL NAME.

I can't tell you how I felt. I was numb and anxious all at once. My life has changed...

I have been put in a place I never imagined to be in. Did I think about killing myself...many times. If it wasn't for God and my son I probably would have.

I don't want her to win. SHE WON'T WIN.

My life has changed. I can't sleep at night, I fear everyone around me, I fear if people have Googled me. I fear losing my job. I fear finding more posts, I fear her hurting me, I fear dating anyone, I fear almost everything....

Contacting the websites has been useless and my safety has been jeopardized. I paid an attorney a lot of money to have everything removed from the web.. Cyber Bullying needs to STOP.

One person can hide behind their computer screen, one click of the submit button can change someone’s life forever. Think about it before you post it!

Defamation is illegal in 17 states. More laws are being passed to protect people from Cyber Bullying.

Jamie Brouhard



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Posted By: Woven | 1/29/14 12:27 PM
What a total nightmare. I hope the lawyer you got to represent you knows what he is doing because some of those websites wont even respond when you try to contact them. I am so sorry you are dealing with some lonely girl that has nothing better to do with her life. DONT LET HER BEAT YOU! If you do prove that she has done this to you I hope you punish her to the absolute fullest extent so others can reference your case in court and never have to be a victim like you have become.
Posted By: JamieBroUser Verified | 1/29/14 3:46 PM
Thanks, I hope to change the Defamation laws for the state of AZ. Hopefully something good will come out of all this mess. I wanted to hide, but no I'm going to share my story so it helps others and hopefully makes for some better changes!

Jamie Brouhard
Posted By: modelUser Verified | 4/21/14 11:51 AM
Jamie, I'm on that dirty site myself and can use some help. it is 100% wrong; none of it is right yet I'm being cyber bullied to death and had contemplated suicide. One lawyer I talked to won't take the case, another quoted me $100k to get it taken down. I don't understand if the site itself is not liable, then they should at least be forced to give me the IP addresses of those who originally posted, and even those who blasted me with comments even if they are removed.

Why is there no justice in this world? I need help.
Posted By: JamieBroUser Verified | 4/23/14 2:33 PM
It is a frustrating process to remove these posts and very time consuming. You are not alone, stand tall and keep your head up. No bully is worth dying over. God gave you precious life so we need you here! :-)

These websites are hard to contact but in their disclosure it states that the person posting this information is responsible for their own actions, it gives them plenty of time to think about what they are doing. The websites don't want to get involved in a civil court case. As long as you have an attorney clarify this, getting the IP address and email used to open the account. I have received these in my case. IP addresses don't really show anything because if you use WI FI or wireless router your IP address with change each time but they still will be close. The email address is the best trace since most require phones now. I am here to help! It is far more embarrassing to be the POSTER and not the POSTED. Always remember that. Jamie
Story Details


Name: Jamie Brouhard
Age: 33
Country: United States
Location: Phoenix, AZ
Gender: Female
Zodiac Sign: Pisces
Maiden Name: N/A
Relationship Status: N/A
Profession: Other
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Hair Color: Blond
Eye Color: Brown
Height: 5 ft 6 in
Weight: 108
Tattoos: No

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