First, I just want to say how great this sight is. Im certain Wonder things are happening because of this site. This is a great site to connect with others, if for support alone. My story involves my daughter who was severly bullied her senior year of high school. This went on for almost 3 months. My daughter lived in fear everyday, knowing she had to face these monsters at school. They were in all of her classes. The torment went on in the classrooms, hallways, stairwell, lunch room, parking lot, as well as outside of school. I tried getting her to go to school officials as soon as I learned of the situation, however, she was afraid, that "they would torment her worse", for snitching. Every day seem to be worse. One day, I received a text from my daughter stating " get me OUT OF THIS CLASS RIGHT NOW". I knew at that very moment the bullies, had done something horrible again. My office is within 3 miles of the school. I raced to the the school, and while on my way there, called the school to have my daughter pulled from that class immediately. When I got there, she was in the security office. A scene I will never forget. She was in the corner shaking and sobbing, they had been taunting her and tormenting her, to the point she couldn't take it anymore. That day, myself along with the security office, told her she NEEDED to go forward and tell the school staff, I told her if she didn't tell school staff that I would. The next morning, I came to the office and we sat down with the assistant principal. After seeing all the written evidence, cyberbullying, ect, the principal said they probably had enough grounds to suspend the bullies. Well, that didn't happen. Instead that evening, our daughter went further into a "shell", and I could see and feel her slipping away. The next morning, My daughter didn't get out of bed for school. I decided to go check on her and to tell her she needed to get up for school, only to see her in a fetal position, with no connection, whatsoever. It was like looking into her and looking right thru her. She had given up on Life. She FINALLY went for help and NOBODY would help her. At this point, I wasn't sure I could pull her out of this "state" she was in. I tried talking to her, but no response from her. I immediately went downstairs and was sobbing. I called that principal, and told him, that "my daughter can't take anymore, and they are doing NOTHING to help her and that I couldn't even get her out of bed, she was very disconnected". My husband whom is a senior teacher within another district left his job and that day we met with the principal, unannounced, and to find out that when we got to the school, it had turned into a Hugh investigation, and the parents of the others girls were at the school. However, the bullies were suspended for TWO DAYS, AND WERE allowed TO STILL COME AND GET THEIR WORK AND DO THEIR WORK, SO THEY WOULDNT MISS ANY WORK. After only off school for two days, they were allowed to come back to the school and and when my daughter came around the corn, in the hall, she faced her attackers again. The bullying continued. We had multiple meetings at the school, the head principal at this point agreed to take these girls out of her classes, but that never happened either. Our daughter was afraid to go to the lunch room, also spent all her lunches in the media center, alone. The bullies, had even posted our daughters picture online with a caption of how they wanted to throw her off the balcony in the gym. These girls threatened to get people to come bomb our home, there were all sorts of threats. I went to that school on MULTIPLE occasions, only to finally be told by the head principal that if we didn't leave she was going to call the police on us. Yes, call the police on us, on the victim. One day in the parking lot, those girs saw my daughter pulling out of parking lot in her vehicle and they decided to try and cut her off, almost causing a wreak. Another time, as our daughter was leaving the school parking lot, they say our daughter again, and started pushing kids in front of our daughters vehicle, so that our daughter might run into a person walking, while she was driving. AI had went to the police on about three occasions, who told us, "sorry, It's on school property, we can't help you". At one of the trips to the police station, the officer told us he was shocked that the school wasn't doing more, and that perhaps we should go after the school legally, because schools do not like lawsuit, so perhaps we should do that. We never did file charges, but had finally been in contact with an attorney AFTER, we also had a meeting with the school board director, who at first said he was "too busy" to meet with us, because of all the changes, and cuts within the district, he was busy "restructuring". The school staff told my daughter to come to them whenever the bullies did anything to her, well when she would go tell them, they did NOTHING. At ONE OF THE MEETINGS, THE HEAD PRINCIPAL SAID TO US, "your DAUGHTER IS A SMART GIRL, WE ARE GOING TO ALLOW HER TO FINISH HER SENIOR YEAR OUT AT HOME". We would not settle for that. Our daughter was NOT the bully. She WANTED very badly to enjoy her final months in high school. Our daughter couldn't even ride on the prom bus for prom, because the bullies had turned so many kids against her. Our daughter was afraid they would throw pop in her hair, or do something to her f she went to prom. We voiced ALL of these concerns to the school. They tried telling us they would watch our daughter very closely. We could not trust the school as far we we could throw them They failed our daughter on a continual basis. I thank the LORD every single day that our daughter didn't take her life. Her life has been changed forever. She is not that same "spunky" girl she once was. She is definitely more sensitive, goes thru depressed stages, and not as social as she once was. Our daughter was a very liked, charismatic, popular girl, who ALWAYS stood up against a bully that was bullying someone else. Never did I ever think she would be a victim. But it happens. and there are NO boundaries, it can happen to ANYONE. These girls STILL will harass her when they see her in the community that we live in. Bullying is NOT addressed well enough in our school buildings. Its NOT enforced. We are losing kids because school staff does NOT take this seriously.
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Posted By: WaitAminute |
8/27/12 2:57 PM
Why does it seem like so many school principals try to sweep bullying under the rug like its a reflection of them personally. No parent is going to believe that bullying is a result of how the principal is doing their job. What parents do want to see is that their child's principal is going to defend them when they are in harms way. The problem lies in the bully and their family not the school and administration!
Posted By: Shay40 |
8/28/12 9:06 AM
Agree, it sure does start in the home. Parents need to teach their kids to be "loving, compassinate people". However, when a school is brought to the awareness of a bullying situation, and they do nothing, over and over. I Believe the school staff should be just as accountable for NOT stopping it but allowing it to continue, in their building.
Posted By: tessness |
9/04/12 10:19 AM
It would be great if somehow you could record some of these actions by the bullies. Pushing kids in front of cars? Seriously? That is attempted murder, isn't it? At the least, assault.
I would put a camera in her car. This needs to stop.
Posted By: Stropp |
9/04/12 3:31 PM
I agree also, that is more than bullying now people are breaking serious laws and need to be punished
Posted By: JJknapp |
9/06/12 3:01 PM
Pushing people in front of your car??? Those kids are out of their minds! Call the police next time and let them deal with it if your school wants to be negligent
Posted By: Raymond |
9/07/12 5:56 AM
I'm sorry to hear of that. I've gone through something like that. Because the bully was the teachers kid and his friends, the fault always turned on me. Now being an adult, i think she has done her part and so did you'll as her parents.Schools have gone to the drains because of principals who do not run the school on principals. Being in an extreme, both your daughter and you, do go for professional counselling cause counsellors will report it with evidence on behave of your daughter to the authorities and most of all, i hope she could be given a 'new slate' to paint on... i meant, transfer to a different school to start anew. Counselling can help her deal with the pain emotionally and pray for her to the Lord for her inner strength. You're doing well and you know your daughter is so worth it!